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Meanwhile, there are three simple ways to teach a child to wait and avoid screams, quarrels and even hysteria when a toddler doesn't get everything right away. It is important to start your efforts as soon as possible.
Patience is an important feature without which it is difficult to cope in life ... even a few years of life.
Unfortunately, we are not born with patience. It's a virtue on which you have to work your whole life. Adults also have problems waiting patiently for the effects of their actions. It exists in human nature the need to get everything here and now, right away. There is something else. Today's world is not patient-waiting.
The most important thing in learning to wait is to have real expectations. Preschooler may have a problem waiting for their turn. This is a natural difficulty characteristic of this stage of development. The toddler prefers to get a smaller reward, but wait rather than wait, but achieve something expected and bigger later. Still, it is very important to support waiting skills at this stage.
Great successes and small ones, but equally important, usually do not come quickly and easily. They require rising many times after falling down and consistent implementation of the plan. Patience is simply necessary in this.
Give me a chance to learn
Your toddler will not learn to wait, if every time he starts to disturb you, you interrupt your activity and pay attention to him, hang up the phone, apologize to the neighbor with whom you talk in front of the house and do exactly what the child expects from you.
You make the bigger mistake the older the child is and the more unbearably he expects to meet his, not necessarily urgent, need. Therefore, if you talk on the phone, you can teach your toddler that if he wants something, he can come and put your hand on your knee or shoulder. In this way, you will develop your "code" and avoid interrupting the conversation.
Some even suggest that you teach your child how to wait (which is useful in many situations, such as in kindergarten) by setting your child's favorite toy or fruit and setting a timer. Waiting fun each day extended by further seconds can bring very quickly satisfactory results. For older kids, learning how to be patient can be arranging puzzles from many elements, building a house of cards, or creating various figures from matches.
Another important point is teaching your child to completed the initiated action: let him watch the story to the end, before he calls for another, put together the previously started puzzles, before reaching for the next, etc.
Each time, however, trying to teach a child how to wait and control their emotions, you have to be patient.
Set a border
You can and should love without limits. However, this does not mean avoiding respecting the rules. These are necessary for the functioning of an already crawling baby. Therefore, when a child behaves badly, you should react and help him fix the effects of his behavior. You should always keep balance, calmness and patience.
It is important to watch over predetermined dates and action plan. There is no point in giving up just because the child insists. Therefore, if you and your family have agreed that the cinema will be on Sunday, do not postpone just because the child is grumbling, the date of family going out on Saturday. In this way you will perpetuate negative behavior. You will show that whining pays off.
The child is not at the center of the universe
It is amazing how many adults are afraid to refuse a child. He feels bad saying that he will approach the child soon, that he must finish something first, that he will answer in a moment, that he will give the toy in a minute. Meanwhile, sometimes just the activity you perform requires continuity and completion.
Each time you give in to your child, you may feel better, but you will not teach your child anything good. For naturally showing a toddler that he is in the center of the universe and that his needs are always more important than adults is not a good way in the long run.