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Finally, Christmas Eve comes. And instead of idyllic time in the family circle come smaller and bigger disappointments, because in the place of beautiful moments - you experience fear, rush, disappointments. Children freak out at borscht, and adults are not as happy as you imagined, gifts are not so much fun, enthusiasm is subdued. What can you do to make it different this year?
High expectations, i.e. addictive, I want more
The problem with dissatisfaction with holiday presents is that children want more and more. We get used to them that they can have them all and give them toys every now and then. As a consequence of this, another gift pleases them for a while or not at all ... And they expect more and better each year.
It's just like the sweets that you eat every day. Such consumption quickly becomes a habit, which does not make eating itself more pleasant, it is practiced mechanically. It is enough, however, for a few days to deny yourself sweet pleasure, to miss her and after a short fast to start eating with even greater desire.
How does this apply to giving children?
Of course, the point is not to give the child what he wants. However, it may be a good practice to be away from your child's needs and wait for the desire to have something to "gain power".
Invite to help
The child usually is not aware of how laborious it is to prepare dishes for the holidays. He may not have knowledge (because of where he should have it), how painful is loud complaining at the table in the company of a person who put his whole heart to prepare tasty meals. Fortunately, you can make your child realize that.
Simply letting you help yourself in the kitchen. Even if this "help" would be only a hindrance - it's worth it. It's not even about preparing gingerbread in a nice way, but less interesting whipping the dough, mixing in pots, dusting, arranging toys in places, preparing the house for the holidays - time spent together will allow you to understand that meals are not prepared by themselves and the house is quite large when it needs to be cleaned, it all takes time and commitment.
Let the child become responsible in some sense for Christmas dishes and feel that he creates the magic of Christmas by caring for her setting.
Have real expectations
When you have a small child, you can not demand that he will be ready to spend a few hours at evening on the Christmas table. It makes no sense to force a long seat in place.
What is different is the expectation that the toddler will calmly eat a meal, and it is different to put him against the wall and criticize that instead of sitting politely on his aunt's lap, he prefers to go crazy with cousins. It is worth keeping a healthy distance and not overdoing it.
Show that you thank for the gift, unpack it and watch
Children learn by imitation. Therefore, show enthusiasm at the sight of the gift, look at it carefully, take a moment to thank Santa - the present or "all seeing", smile. Teach your children that gifts should be thanked.
It is a good idea to prepare a gift for Mikołaj - after all, you can thank for gifts in many ways.
Talk about good things everyday
Shaping a graceful attitude is a long process. A very important point on his way is to create a ritual of daily exchanging what you thank for which you are grateful for. For example, my children say: "thank you for my parents' love", "... that my aunt visited us today", "... that there was pizza for dinner today", "that I was able to draw a gnome", etc.
What do you think your saying?